It's time to give Credit where Credit is Due

      For a lot of my blog posts, I basically been blaming a plethora amount of people for the degradation of women on social media. However, it is time to take acknowledgement for those that do not partake in this act. I am talking about men that gives females compliments for their beauty. There is a difference between calling a female "beautiful" and "Sexy". It is a fine distinction. There are a lot of men in this world that are gentleman, and can make a women feel more powerful and uplifted than ever before.

      Also, I got to give credit to those females that are focus on their education; it is very easy to become a statistic of a pregnant mom that didn't finish high school. According to cdc.gov, in 2012, there were a total of "305,388 babies born to women aged 15-19". It is more common to see a teen mom now then ever before due to our generation being more sexual active. Therefore, for those females that are focused on their career, focused on achieving their aspirations, and determined to make a living are completely exempt from degrading themselves. Instead, those are the type of people that are changing society perception of females that they are "sluts" and "deserve to be in the kitchen. Now, people are more aware of how independent females can be, and deserve way more respect compared to the treatment and image they receive on social media. It is very easy for those to not receive recognition as often as they deserve to due to the simple fact it is easier to criticize than give credit. Thank you to the true gentleman that knows how to treat themselves; thank you to the true females that have more respect for themselves and have ambition to make a future for themselves. The final recognition I have is for the parents that raise these men and females with respect. The parents do not get enough credit either since they are the ones that instill the values among the children.
The parents are supposed to be there to teach them from right and from wrong. If the parents are successful at raising their kids properly, then the kids can pass down the same parenting style towards their kids and so on and so on. Children are the future, so that is why it is important for them to be raise with the right values so that they can fix these problems like degradation of women. When will this problem ever be solved? To be honest, I think it is going to be more than 2-3 generations to tackle this problem since degradation of women is ingrained in our music, videos, movies, television shows, social media, and so much more. However, the only way how it can be solved is if the parents utilize their parental skills, and help their children become future leaders. There are some parents that has been successful at this, but some is not enough if we are trying to tackle this problem.

Moral of the Story

    Do you remember the time when you wish you was a tad bit skinnier? If that does not apply to you, do you remember the time you wish you was a tad bit bigger? Forget about size, do you find other people more attractive than you? In today society, one thing that is highly noticeable is the low self esteem. There has never been a time I heard someone say they are completely happy with their body figure or the image they have. Instead they always want this or that. Its never satisfaction with what they have. For example, I went to my barber the other day. We were talking about what we both wanted within ourselves. I wanted to lose weight, and he wanted to gain weight. The whole time I am wishing I can have the perfect body weight that he has while in reality, he wants to be somewhat close to my size. Why can't we feel comfortable with our bodies? I know females that are beautiful and call themselves ugly. I can never tell if it is to get attention, but deep down, it hurts hearing someone view themselves in that manner. We all lost a sense of identity. We lose ourselves trying to become the ideal image society depicts. Because of this, some women are internally degrading themselves. These type of women have low self esteem, confidence, and pride in themselves. They are too worried about pleasing others that they are actually not pleasing themselves. For instance, there are a total of 100 men in this office. 99 of them told the same female that she is gorgeous. However, the remaining male told the female that is not the beautiful, she is actually ugly. That one comment will stick with the female more than the 99 compliments she received before the insult.

    Why is it like this? Not all females are like this, but I haven't met one female without insecurities about herself. I am not saying men do not have insecurities either, but due to the typical stereotype of men being masculine and men do not cry or show any emotions, their insecurities are overlooked. We can not solve a problem if we do not know it exists. Some of these females need to realize that they take their lives for granted. There is always another person wishing they had the life that you are living. It might be hard to distinguish these type of people due to everyone having pride, and will be hard to admit it, but people are jealous of the things you have and possess.

    I know my blogs do not receive staggering amount of views every week, but for those that are reading it, the moral of the story, male or female, is: do not take your life for granted. Your life is awesome because there will always be someone out there that is having it worse than you. There are people with diseases, with syndromes that can be fixed, and disabled people that are living life with no regrets. Forget about other people's judgments, do what makes you happy.

Degradation of Women in Hip Hop.

    Before I begin, I do not want to make a generalization by stating, "All songs in Hip Hop are degrading to women", but the Hip Hop songs that are played on YouTube, on the radio, on sound cloud, on iTunes, and on Pandora all have lyrics that degrades women.

  MAJORITY of songs in the previous generation did not depict women as sex objects. The old school believed in monogamous relationship. Because of this, the songs illustrated what it means to be in love, what it means to be loyal to your partner, and what it means to be enamored with the lady personality instead of her aesthetics.

    Now, it is completely inverse. Women are now "twerking", revealing more skin in music videos, and glorifying guys that mistreat them. In music videos, of course it is an image/ video the raper wants the media to perceive them. However, there is a psychological stand point about the treatment of women in Hip Hop.

    For example, if you constantly hear something or have the image ingrained in your brain, then you are going to have a long term memory of the image you seen. Now, if the image is a female wearing a bikini, dancing in a sexual manner, then it probably will not make a big difference if you do not see it or hear about it that much. On the other hand, if you watch these type of videos so many times, you are instantly going to start to view women in a different perspective. You are more inclined to believe they do not have any self respect if they are dancing in revealing clothes for money, and doing more degrading things a female does not deserve to do. Because of this, since every rapper desires acceptance, the rapper will follow the trend that everyone is liking so that he can get attention. In this generation, the newer generation of Hip Hop refer to women as "bitches". Now, a rapper will use words like "bitches" and "sluts" to fit in with the main stream type of music to promote his music. But, without even knowing it, these dirty name calling and mistreatment of women actually symbolizes degradement since females are not put on a pedestal. Instead, they are treated like sex objects that only gets value by how big their assets are over their personality. It is very hard to find songs talking about love flourishing in Hip Hop like it did in the past due to the fact that the newer generation are infatuated with the facade lifestyle the rappers created.

    In my opinion, the main song that created this degradation of women was: tip drill by the artist Nelly. The song contains filthy lyrics, women dancing provocatively in revealing clothes, and more degrading images that are disturbing to talk about I put the link to the video below, but warning, viewer description is advised since it is very explicit. 

    Because of songs and videos like this in Hip Hop, this affects the way how men treat women. If music videos are as common as the one above, then their perception of women are going to be analogous to the music they listen to since they see and hear it so much. Therefore, Hip Hop needs to be reformed. These type of lyrics and videos are unacceptable, but most importantly, damaging women's credibility as the intelligent hardworking female the 1700's try to vouch for.

Degradation of Women on Television

  How does television play a huge factor on degradation of women? Television is now accessible to all ages now. A 5 year old can watch mature rating television series now. So, when a child is watching television, it is not that easy, compared to an adult, to distinguish what is right and what is wrong.  Because of this, low self esteem is developed due to the fact that the younger children are not fully capable of knowing that there are more shapes of beauty than what television depicts.

   For example, when you turn to VH1, the females that are depicted all have fully developed bodies. Some of this is due to plastic surgery, but majority of the females have bigger cleavage, bigger bottoms, and heavy usage of make up to cover their blemishes. So, when a child at a very young age see all of the attention these type of women are getting on television, then that is what they want to be. They now are becoming hurt and crush that they do not meet the standards of the models they see on television. Instead of believing in natural beauty, they are forced to believe in a façade of what society view as beautiful.

  It is highly important to understand why seeing these things at such a young age affects how the children grow up. If a female feels like they can't become the women they see on TV, then they are devastated. This will affects the way how the female presents herself when it comes to confidence. also, it will affect how the female is in relationship since she will feel like she is never good enough. It is a sad reality that television created.

  Television do not focus on natural beauty. Every commercial, television series, or movie you see always have females wearing make up with society's ideal image of a perfect body. If there is a show or clips of natural beauty, it is heavily outweighed by all the fraud beauty there is. A female should prideful of their body no matter what television portray as beautiful.

  Since television creates this hoax of an ideal female, this relates back to the degradation of women because some men are more inclined to fell for the women that have a "better body" than a female that is more natural. Television made men enamored with females that have a slim waist, but big hips. I am not saying that EVERY female on television has botox in their face, lips, cheeks, or other body parts, but a lot of females on television do not promote self beauty. Children watch these television shows, and they are more gullible to believe in these typical standards society have for females.

  In conclusion, television plays a huge factor on degradation of social media. It is nearly impossible to reform television movies, series, and commercials due to the fact that everyone is addicted to television now. However, the thing we can change is letting the youth watch these superficial women on television since they are too young to worry about if their body is perfect or not, or if men and will approve of their image.

Lets go on a Date ! ;)

    Have you ever went on a blind date before? If so, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Women does this, but as a male, the first thing we say if our friend sets us up on a blind date is: "Is she hot?" IT IS VERY VERY VERY VERY, I do not know how many capitalize "verys" is needed to emphasize this point, rare for a male to say, "Forget her looks, what is her personality like?" on a blind date. Why is that?

    In today's society, majority of men are infatuated with aesthetics and the physique of women over her personality. But can we blame men for that? Just as much as females look for acceptance and appreciation from other females, men feel the desire to be gratified and worshiped for their mate.

It is called bragging rights. A male typically brags about his wife, his car, his house, his accomplishments, and more of his possessions. So, to have a wife that instantly gets attention for her beauty, then the male reached happiness knowing that the world approves of his mate. So, if other men does not find that female "attractive", then it is typical for the male to lose interest in the female. But wouldn't you feel infuriated at the fact that you can not make an impression on people because of your looks? There is a saying called, "Do not judge a book by its cover." But lets be realistic, if you have never met a person in your life, the only judgement you can make of a person is based off of their looks. Someone can look very scary, vicious, and terrifying but can actually be the nicest person you ever met. Therefore, for our dating preferences, why do we make "looks" a necessity over personality? There are a lot of beautiful females out there that have a nasty personality. On the other hand, there are females that might not have the same "assets" or "features" as other females, but actually have an amazing personality. So, why does this juxtaposition between looks and personality exists?

   It exists because of degradation of women! Music videos, Instagram models, celebrities, actors, magazines, and reality TV creates an image of what a "beautiful" female consist of. Even if her personality is amazing, if her "looks" does not meet the typical society's standards, then her personality will be overlooked by some men. Because of this, some females become inspired to get detox in the face, implants, and even tans to conform into society's image of "beautiful". Therefore, if the female does not have the perfect body, the infallible skin tone, and the perfect features, then this "blind date" will not last long despite how beautiful her personality is. Social media created this mindset of looks over personality. Little do people know that this mindset is degrading to women since women are given chances or attention based off of their looks instead of their personality. NOT ALL MEN, but for those men that mistreat women, you need to treat women with more respect. Actually listen to them instead of having sexual intentions. Finally, ALL females are beautiful in their own way: in all shapes and forms, sizes and height, and many more features that make you unique. Thanks for viewing!