In today's society, majority of men are infatuated with aesthetics and the physique of women over her personality. But can we blame men for that? Just as much as females look for acceptance and appreciation from other females, men feel the desire to be gratified and worshiped for their mate.
It is called bragging rights. A male typically brags about his wife, his car, his house, his accomplishments, and more of his possessions. So, to have a wife that instantly gets attention for her beauty, then the male reached happiness knowing that the world approves of his mate. So, if other men does not find that female "attractive", then it is typical for the male to lose interest in the female. But wouldn't you feel infuriated at the fact that you can not make an impression on people because of your looks? There is a saying called, "Do not judge a book by its cover." But lets be realistic, if you have never met a person in your life, the only judgement you can make of a person is based off of their looks. Someone can look very scary, vicious, and terrifying but can actually be the nicest person you ever met. Therefore, for our dating preferences, why do we make "looks" a necessity over personality? There are a lot of beautiful females out there that have a nasty personality. On the other hand, there are females that might not have the same "assets" or "features" as other females, but actually have an amazing personality. So, why does this juxtaposition between looks and personality exists?
It exists because of degradation of women! Music videos, Instagram models, celebrities, actors, magazines, and reality TV creates an image of what a "beautiful" female consist of. Even if her personality is amazing, if her "looks" does not meet the typical society's standards, then her personality will be overlooked by some men. Because of this, some females become inspired to get detox in the face, implants, and even tans to conform into society's image of "beautiful". Therefore, if the female does not have the perfect body, the infallible skin tone, and the perfect features, then this "blind date" will not last long despite how beautiful her personality is. Social media created this mindset of looks over personality. Little do people know that this mindset is degrading to women since women are given chances or attention based off of their looks instead of their personality. NOT ALL MEN, but for those men that mistreat women, you need to treat women with more respect. Actually listen to them instead of having sexual intentions. Finally, ALL females are beautiful in their own way: in all shapes and forms, sizes and height, and many more features that make you unique. Thanks for viewing!
I really enjoyed this post! It is true that the first thing we see about a person is their aesthetics. However, like you stated, this is truly not what defines and individual. I think that this is one of the most important parts within your topic. I look forward to your next post.
ReplyDeleteI agree and unfortunately many of these ideals are ascribed through most religious books. Many of them actually use women as a symbol of sex which in essence teaches us that this is how we are supposed to be because "it's the guide to life" right? love your blog. good content
ReplyDeleteI always want to comment SO TRUE at the end of all your blog posts because you continue to hit the nail on the head every week! I absolutely agree that the media, whether it's movies, tv shows, advertisements, or whatever else, has warped our sense of beauty, especially when it comes to women. Even though we know that so many of advertisements depicting women are photoshopped or entirely computer generated, we still compare ourselves and other women to these unattainable standards. You make some really great points in this post and I love the graphic at the end!
ReplyDeleteI love the picture that you included at the end.Everyone women out there, at least the ones i've met, have had something about their body that they wished they could change or alter.Many times it is because of the media and different media outlets that give us that yearn for perfection like you stated in your post.You really hit the home run on the thinking of attraction and what it means in a relationship.Great post.
ReplyDeleteI dont think it's anyones fault looks are so spotlighted. i say this because in any situation that is the first thing we see. like that saying love at first sight. you dont sight the personality of a person you see there features. but in due time we build a bond with the people we choose which results in our love for them as a person and not just a figure or "trophy girl".
ReplyDeleteGreat post, good point though.
I completely agree with you. It is not uncommon to hear two guys arguing about who's girlfriend is hotter or who has been with hotter girls. I agree with you that this culture is offensive in its objectification of women.
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